purging

Genevieve Swann
Posts: 3
Joined: Sat Nov 12, 2016 4:02 pm

purging

Postby Genevieve Swann » Tue Feb 28, 2017 11:24 pm

Have you ever purged, Thrown out all your good stuff? If so why? Fear? Guilt? How long
before you started collecting new things?

Rita Irene
Posts: 0
Joined: Sun Feb 05, 2017 3:32 am

Re: purging

Postby Rita Irene » Tue Feb 28, 2017 11:24 pm

Oh, Ive done it...a few times...guilt and fear of being caught. I would delve back in
evry 2 years or so.

I have more now than Ive ever had and actualy considered a purge recently. Dont know
why. Im married and my wife is all for what I do. But the "man" in me sometimes
surfaces and is very hard to deal with.

Sally Stone
Posts: 0
Joined: Tue Feb 28, 2017 11:30 pm

Re: purging

Postby Sally Stone » Tue Feb 28, 2017 11:25 pm

I think purging is one of those behaviors that is part of a crossdresser's natural
progression. It's part of the maturation process. I purged often in my
early years as a crossdresser. Later though, as I grew more comfortable as a
crossdresser the need to purge abated. I can't speak for everyone but where I was
concerned self acceptance eliminated that nagging need to purge.

Hugs,

Sally

Genevieve Swann
Posts: 3
Joined: Sat Nov 12, 2016 4:02 pm

Re: purging

Postby Genevieve Swann » Tue Feb 28, 2017 11:25 pm

Hello Sally and Rita. The "Urge to purge" has seen it's days. Never more. The last time
it happened to me was not a voluntary act. I wanted my clothes and shoes but the lady
who lived in my apartment with me got a restraining order because she was afraid I may
take other things like my range , refrigerator, washer ,etc.She did not care if I
dressed but she was upset and she knew that keeping my favorite things would upset me.
Oh well ****happens. Actually she did me a favor. It's fun to start shopping again. I
will never do it again on my own. When I was younger I thought maybe there was
something wrong with me only to find I'm not alone. My wardrobe increased today. A lady
friend has to get larger sizes so she gave two nice skirts. I think she should eat
more. I'll feed her a bunch pizza and when her clothes no longer fit...... That sounds
self serving but I might do it. I look forward to talking again. HUGS Genevieve

Patricia
Posts: 0
Joined: Tue Feb 28, 2017 11:30 pm

Re: purging

Postby Patricia » Tue Feb 28, 2017 11:25 pm

Hi All,

I think like many of you I too have purged, many times, and just like Sally, my
wardrobe is now bigger then it has ever been before. If I were to purge
now... WOW! That would be a pretty penny. Now that I live alone, I'm not
nearly as worried about getting caught as I used to be. As long as keep
everything put away, I really don't have much to worry about.

Patricia

chrysalis
Posts: 1
Joined: Sat Nov 12, 2016 4:02 pm

Re: purging

Postby chrysalis » Tue Feb 28, 2017 11:26 pm

I only purged once and that was when I got caught. I haven't built up a wardrobe or
dressed in any significant fashion since then.

Wends
Posts: 0
Joined: Tue Feb 28, 2017 11:31 pm

Re: purging

Postby Wends » Tue Feb 28, 2017 11:26 pm

My advice is to never purge anything that can't be replaced. If you have something
special that has a special significance then hold on to it.

Lyric
Posts: 0
Joined: Sun Feb 05, 2017 3:10 am

Re: purging

Postby Lyric » Tue Feb 28, 2017 11:27 pm

Well, everybody can stand to clean out the closet now and then, but this is a bit
different, of course. I've done it a couple of times back when I was struggling to
conform to what I thought was the "norm". Later, I realized that while you can clean
out your closet, you can never clean out your soul. I decided to face this part of
myself, sort of the opposite of purging, to see where it goes. I'm still at it and I
love it. Why purge something that brings you such joy?

Genevieve Swann
Posts: 3
Joined: Sat Nov 12, 2016 4:02 pm

Re: purging

Postby Genevieve Swann » Tue Feb 28, 2017 11:27 pm

Lyric, What is "norm"? I believe crossdressing is so common it is considered fairly
normal behavior. Many years ago most psycologists determined it was not an illness. I
have friend in Salt Lake City who was crossdressing at a young age and believed the if
Deborah was ever found out they would use electroshock therapy to cure the disease.
He/she Malcolm/Deborah was living in small town in Ohio.That's probably the cause
of the extreme paranoia. It would be very interesting if all of the crossdressers in
America came out of the closet. Even 50% would be a lot of people.

JENNIFER
Posts: 0
Joined: Tue Feb 28, 2017 11:31 pm

Re: purging

Postby JENNIFER » Tue Feb 28, 2017 11:28 pm

Purging happens to most of us at some time. I found it to be a waste of time and
money because I just replaced what I discarded in due course only to do it all
again.

These forums hopefully will guide others dealing with gender identity problems and help
save time and money and heartache by reassuring people that it is normal to purge but
that there is also another way and that is to talk to someone, anyone because purging
is an inward emotion and does little for you in the long term.

Kallisty
Posts: 0
Joined: Tue Feb 28, 2017 11:31 pm

Re: purging

Postby Kallisty » Tue Feb 28, 2017 11:28 pm

I purged only one time - when I got out of the military and my family wasn't too
supportive (specifically my mother). All of it, except the breastforms and a
couple odds and ends that were not in the main trunk, went to Goodwill.

Lyric
Posts: 0
Joined: Sun Feb 05, 2017 3:10 am

Re: purging

Postby Lyric » Tue Feb 28, 2017 11:28 pm

Well, I said I struggled to be what I though was the norm. I haven't seen any
statistics, but I believe in a society where so many try to be just alike, it's really
wonderful to embrace what is distinctive about yourself. Diversity is a very healthy
societal condition, though can be difficult on the personal level, particularly for the
young.

Patricia
Posts: 0
Joined: Tue Feb 28, 2017 11:30 pm

Re: purging

Postby Patricia » Tue Feb 28, 2017 11:29 pm



I did some research once and found that 7% of all men feel the need to wear women's
clothes at some point in their lives. That means in a city of 300,000 (kind of
like where I live) there are 21,000 of us. Yes, that is a lot of people.

Vicky
Posts: 1
Joined: Sat Nov 12, 2016 4:03 pm

Re: purging

Postby Vicky » Tue Feb 28, 2017 11:29 pm

Have good cheer!!! By the time someone has gotten to one of these Board places,
anything short of a court order, and not all of those, will not make us to purge.
The only time I have done it was as a teenager with a sister who was going to be alone
in our family home for a summer while I was on a "Boy" camp staff. Too late, she
had already seen it and make life hell then, and recently outed me to other
non-approving (but more accepting than she had thought) family members. Now I
don't have a "secret life" and its actually a relief, I am angry, but now that I am
getting used to it, the anger is dying. To get over the anger, I bought a nice
new dress, and I love it!!

The folks for whom purging will be a big deal and happen often will never get here to
talk about it, which is too bad.

Stickmaker1
Posts: 0
Joined: Sat Nov 05, 2016 4:55 pm

Re: purging

Postby Stickmaker1 » Tue Feb 28, 2017 11:30 pm

I have only purged one time volutarily. The other times were when a hasty escape from
bad relationship was needed and I could not get it all together quickly enough.


Return to “Crossdress discussion 1”

Who is online

Users browsing this forum: No registered users and 1 guest