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Cross-dressing and Bathrooms

Posted: Wed Mar 01, 2017 11:18 pm
by Bria257
So when I crossdress I always seem to totally forget to use the mens bathroom. I get
yelled at a lot, but part of me is terrified to be found out ((even though I have never
been in the past)), so using the mens bathroom is hard for me still. Been using family
bathrooms a lot. I totally wish they had trans bathrooms or something, it would make me
feel much better :/

Should I continue to use the mens or womans bathroom I guess is what Im asking? and I
feel I know the answer, but how do I gain more confidence before an actual top surgery
or HRT?

Re: Cross-dressing and Bathrooms

Posted: Wed Mar 01, 2017 11:19 pm
by tekla
I'd say use the one that most closely matches your outer appearance, taking into
account what laws you may be breaking. In many places now laws are in place that
protect such actions, and those places also tend to be the most blase about it because
they are used to it.

Re: Cross-dressing and Bathrooms

Posted: Wed Mar 01, 2017 11:19 pm
by Anteros
Piss in the corner, preferably on someone.

Re: Cross-dressing and Bathrooms

Posted: Wed Mar 01, 2017 11:19 pm
by Tsme0
d say use the one that most closely matches your outer
appearance, taking into account what laws you may be breaking. In many places now
laws are in place that protect such actions, and those places also tend to be the most
blase about it because they are used to it.
yeah sounds good to me. I guess it would be best to check local law yes?

Re: Cross-dressing and Bathrooms

Posted: Wed Mar 01, 2017 11:20 pm
by tekla
that, and ask around. There are places like SF and Berkeley that have written
specific ordinances to cover this. In other places it most likely is not exactly
and specifically forbidden it could easily result in changes of disorderly conduct,
indecent exposure and bunch of crap like that.

Re: Cross-dressing and Bathrooms

Posted: Wed Mar 01, 2017 11:20 pm
by Jo-Anne1

Re: Cross-dressing and Bathrooms

Posted: Wed Mar 01, 2017 11:20 pm
by Dysphoric
Lol, I have the same problem. Since I cross dress as a male (due to successfully being
mistaken as one) I thought it would be awkward going into a female restroom so I just
went into the guys. If your at some random place where no one knows you, go for it.
It's unlikely for someone to question or start a conversation with a stranger they met
at the restroom. Take precaution that you don't see anyone you recognize like a
classmate or anyone you know and don't act suspicious/nervous. Waltz right in there and
slip into a stall.

Re: Cross-dressing and Bathrooms

Posted: Wed Mar 01, 2017 11:21 pm
by Maddie
If they yell at you when you use the ladies' room, doesn't that suggest you're passing
as a guy? Sounds like you would do just fine using the gents'.

Re: Cross-dressing and Bathrooms

Posted: Wed Mar 01, 2017 11:21 pm
by Cindy
Local laws change a lot.

In Australia if you present as female use the female toilet, If male use the male
toilet. If you are in Drag use the toilet of your sex. Confusing, yep.

But most large entertainment places in Australia also have M/F toilets or F/M, which
means Unisex. They were supposed to help out in the female rush for the loo in theatres
etc. But they have also become synonymous with if you need a loo use it.

I think, and this is without personal experience, you are more likely to get reported
to security for loitering in the toilet rather than for using one of the 'wrong
sex'.

I also read that some places in the USA seem to have more problems than needed
with people who need to use a toilet.

I use to do lots of bush camping in Aus and we basically had the boys bush and the
girls bush. If it was organised someone would dig a hole and place a deck chair without
seating in the girls area.

Somehow the need to empty bladder, bowels or anything else never caused any great
excitement.

To be honest I still do not know why it does, unless you have a baby and have to
check its motions, something I leave to its parents.

Re: Cross-dressing and Bathrooms

Posted: Wed Mar 01, 2017 11:22 pm
by Brooke777
Since I am not full time, I got a letter from my therapist saying I need to use the
women's restroom while presenting female.

Also, most guys won't care if a "woman" uses the men's room. If they perceive you as a
female, they will probably just smile.

Re: Cross-dressing and Bathrooms

Posted: Wed Mar 01, 2017 11:22 pm
by Renee M1
I use the men's all the time with no problems. When with a group where
someone know my history I use the unisex restroom or none at all. I mostly
use the men's where there is little chance of someone I know seeing me. I have
never had a problem using the men's, guys say very little, only there to do their
business and move on. If you pass as a guy use the men's.

Re: Cross-dressing and Bathrooms

Posted: Wed Mar 01, 2017 11:22 pm
by Ickyvic290
Where I live now the law states one must use the restroom of your actual gender. It's
alright with me. So I stand to pee in the stall wearing heels and lift my skirt. It's
quite a surprise to others when I exit the stall. Oh well... They'll get over it. I
did.